Are you ready to break free and thrive, regardless of external situations?

Then stop being stingy with yourself and others.

You heard me.

You may think you’re the most generous person in the world, but if you’re feeling alone, deprived and unfulfilled, that means you’re not sharing enough.

I don’t mean that you’re not sharing resources and caring.  What I’m saying is that you’re not sharing your dreams/intentions/goals enough.

The only way we create our lives is through conversation. In case you haven’t noticed, you’re always having a conversation with yourself 🙂 Sometimes it’s a helpful convo and sometimes it’s self-defeating, but it’s always going on in the background.

When was the last time you took a moment to declare your goals to yourself in a powerful and intentional way?  How often does your background conversation support those intentions, dreams and aspirations? If you’re human, it’s probably not as often as you’d like, and definitely not as often as needed to be effective in reaching your goals.

That’s why it’s also important to share your goals with others. Not just anyone, but someone, or a group of people, who have earned your trust. Declaring your goals out loud in front of others is super powerful for a few reasons:

1.It has you put something at stake. Keeping goals a secret is cowardly. When you don’t share you get to take the easy way out. No wonder you abandon your resolutions after the second week of January.  You haven’t put anything at stake to keep you accountable to who you say you want to become. Yes it’s vulnerable and uncomfortable. It’s also courageous and propels you into taking action with support.

2. When you share your goals with others you are getting out of your own head where judgement and limiting beliefs get in your way. This is why it’s important to be selective about who you share with. You don’t need more limiting feedback. Choose someone/folks who listen powerfully for your potential and possibility. Don’t feel like you have friends and family who can do that for you? That’s when you look into hiring a coach or joining a group who is committed to your success.

3. It’s fair to say that most of us want to do good in the world. When you share your goals powerfully with others you inspire them to see possibility, not only for you, but also for themselves. You give them permission to also dream, set goals and declare them. As David Attenborough the famous natural historian says in his latest movie, A Life on Our Planet: “In this world, a species can only thrive when everything else around it thrives too.” Sharing your goals helps all of us thrive.

Just the other day I posted on Facebook asking for folks to share their goal for 2021 in 1 word. The responses were inspiring and over 150 folks commented and shared. My friend Heather took about half of the words and plugged it into an app that makes a cool shape with the words:

Isn’t that inspiring to look at? Imagine if we had the courage to share our dreams/goals with each other, and we also listened for each other’s greatness and kept each other accountable for who we say we want to become? It would and does make a difference!

So, I invite you to get clear on your goal, declare it, share it and thrive.