When you schedule time on your calendar how often do you pencil in activities on Someday?
Never heard of Someday being on the calendar? That’s because Someday doesn’t exist in reality. There’s a saying that goes: “There are 7 days in a week and Someday isn’t one of them.”
Saying you’ll do something Someday is saying that what you want is just a pipe dream. As uninspiring as this is, it’s also easy and doesn’t involve risk.
On the other hand, taking steps towards what you really want feels scary, risky and hard.
I get it. I’ve been there over and over, and continue to go there!
I remember telling my parents that I’d decided to become a raft guide instead of go to law school. During that time, my Dad kept asking me when I was going to get a real job. There would have been a lot less friction had I continued on my traditional path and put raft guiding into the Someday box. But, I knew I couldn’t wait for Someday.
Then came the decision to show up for Canadian Freestyle Team Trials having only competed one other time. I was nervous and terrified of looking like a complete failure. There were lots of reasons why I shouldn’t have tried out for the team and just kept dreaming that it might happen Someday. But I dug deep, found the courage to show up and I ended up making the team.
A lot of people told me that creating an instructional DVD for women in whitewater would never work. No one would sponsor it, there’s no difference between men and women paddlers etc… I felt deflated at times, maybe it was a pipe dream. Maybe I was crazy. I kept coming back to a feeling deep down that I could make a positive impact and contribute to my community. I also knew that I couldn’t wait for Someday to do it. That DVD turned into a business that is now 14 years strong.
Throughout my life there have been many moments when it would have felt safer, easier and more comfortable to keep myself small, and keep daydreaming about Someday.
Had I done that I wouldn’t be writing this blog post and you wouldn’t be reading it! I wouldn’t have had the honor of contributing to as many women as I have, and that would suck.
Here are 3 Proven Steps to Shift Your Daydreams Into Reality
Step 1: Schedule
Use your calendar and the days that are based in reality! If there’s something you want to do, put it in your calendar. This goes for activities big and small. If you want to exercise 3 X per week, look at your calendar on Sunday evening and schedule the times and days.
If there’s a workshop, retreat or class you want to attend, write it in your calendar. If you already have something planned that week/weekend don’t give up! Find the next available date that it’s being offered and schedule it in. Writing it in your calendar is the first step toward today being Day One.
Studies show that scheduling an activity (could be a new habit you want to form or a goal you want to reach or a class you want to take) greatly increases your success in following through with that activity.
Which of the following statements feels more empowering to you? “Someday I’ll get enough sleep.” OR, “Tonight at 9 p.m. I’m going to turn off my phone, get ready for bed, drink a cup of chamomile tea and relax.” Which statement actually gets you on the path to becoming the person you want to become?
I hope you said the second statement! Creating change in your life to become the person you want to become, and do the things that are important to you takes effort. It’s hard. The first step is taking action today, right now.
Step 2: Commit
Take action to commit. Set an alarm on your phone that cues you to stop scrolling social media, lay out your workout clothes so they’re ready to go the next morning, or put a deposit on the workshop you want to attend.
Good habits, positive change, and creating space for yourself in your life require commitment. You’ve got to be willing to show up for yourself – show up for Day One instead of daydreaming about Someday.
Commitment feels scary. For those of you who paddle, you know the butterflies-in-stomach and dry-mouth feeling of entering a rapid or paddling into a wave. We can’t know for certain the outcome of our commitment, but we certainly know the outcome of the actions that we’re already taking (or not taking) and the negative impact they’re having on our sense of fulfillment and joy.
If you want things to stay the same, keep talking about Someday. If you want things to change, make a commitment now.
Step 3: Align Your Actions with your Commitment
If you say you’re committed to getting restful sleep, but then stay up late watching TV, your actions aren’t aligned with your commitment. If you complain about not having enough time, but sleep in every morning, then you’re out of alignment. When you know that something brings you joy, but you aren’t willing to make time for it, then you’re acting like you don’t deserve a joyful life.
Take responsibility for, and align your actions with your commitment. If you do this, you will create change in your life. In fact, it’s the only way to create change. Knowing something won’t make a bit of difference in your life unless you take action.
This is where the rubber really meets the road.
I didn’t know what the outcome of any of my actions would be at the time I took them. I had no idea that a summer job in the kitchen of a rafting company would lead to raft guiding. That raft guiding and kayaking would lead to a competitive career. That my competitive career would lead to a successful business.
What was clear to me every step of the way was that I needed to align my actions with who I wanted to be and become. Doing that took courage. That commitment to living an authentic life continues for me today.
What does your authentic life look like? What can you schedule today? What commitment and action can you take today to become the person you want to be and do more of the things that matter to you?
Welcome to Day One!
If you’re looking for more insight on how to schedule, commit and take action toward what’s important to you Email Me to set up a free 30-minute coaching call to help you integrate these steps into your life.